The Golden Rule in Reverse


You’ve heard the saying, “treat others as you want to be treated.”

But rather than focus on the way we treat others.  Let’s focus on how we treat ourselves for a minute.

What if we vow to “treat ourselves in the same way we treat others?”

It’s cliche – I know.

But we can be so quick to engage in negative self-talk.  We have a tendency to be overly difficult on ourselves.  We beat ourselves up for the small things.

And it begins to spiral.

What if, rather than going down this road, we try and engage in a more positive self-talk?  Rather than isolate and shame ourselves, what if we just thought about the advice we would give a friend?

We rarely give advice to a friend that keeps them in a shame spiral.  We speak kindly and in a way that will stop the spiral.  Because from the outside, it’s more obvious what’s going on.

When it’s a friend, we give them all sorts of positive vibes, and often reassure them.  We remind them it’s not as bad as it seems, and how they weren’t at fault.  Shit just happens sometimes.

Yet – when we get engaged in this self-talk, all of this goes out the window.  We have a tendency to isolate ourselves.  And we forget to treat ourselves in the gentle way we treat friends.  To reassure ourselves that what we are feeling isn’t as real as we thought.

Have you ever brought something up you were stressing about – only for it to seem totally silly when you actually talk about it?

It happens to all of us.  Understand that feeling is something we all experience at times.  It’s a commonality we all share.  It’s part of what makes us human.

It’s our response that tends to separate us.  We can make things worse by beating ourselves up.  Or we can quiet the voice by bringing it to light, and applying the golden rule on ourselves.

Life is hard enough.  Don’t make it any harder by holding yourself up on a pedestal.  Give yourself a break.  Treat yourself the same way you would treat a best friend.

You deserve it.

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