It’s all about the scale and the magnitude. So often on the small things, we can become overwhelmed by the fear. And the fear gets amplified. And as we try and fight it, it only pushes back harder. So stop resisting and just relent.
What do I mean? Rather than focus on the feeling or the fear itself – focus on figuring out the downside. Get specific about what scares you. Think to yourself about the worst case scenario. Most of the time for me – this is all the comfort I need. Because when you force yourself to really go through the exercise of thinking about “the worst that could happen” – it nearly always quiets the fear and the feeling.
The worst that could happen is very rarely a situation that is life or death. More often it’s situations where the stakes are very low. So the next time you are afraid about pushing forward, ask yourself, “what’s the worst that could happen?”